Yin and Yang
I had the most interesting conversation with a dear friend about my current situation and it led to quite an enlightening discovery. Since November, my recordings have been more “positive and uplifting” than they were in the past, mainly because of my spiritual awakening I had in Hawaii – and continue to have every day. I told my friend of my dilemma – that my customers like seeing the Dommely, sometimes evil, side of me – but I had grown less comfortable doing that over the past few months.
Then we discussed the yin and yang theory, that you can’t have one without the other. That even a Goddess must have some evilness in order to portray her positiveness. In all white, there is black. In all black, there is some white. Even “god” would show his wrath, wouldn’t he? And a self-proclaimed Goddess would still have the right to be demanding, to maintain “control of the floor” if you will. Even in positivity, there can still be consequences, which customers seem to like — consequences. I get emails almost daily from people requesting rather negative consequences, such as blackmail fantasies, castration fantasies, and forced sexual situations. In the past, I’d have no trouble doing this, as my conscience didn’t really mind. The only way I could do such recordings now, is if I emphasize that these fantasies are only for the customers, and not necessarily follow my own personal beliefs. In the past, I had no difficulty whatsoever creating recordings emphasizing bankruptcy, homelessness, and joblessness in order for the person to serve me better. The new side of me argues, “If a person is bankrupt and homeless, how can they afford to serve me?” So I’ve stopped doing those types of recordings. But the requests keep coming. Can you see my dilemma?
I thought it was funny when I flat out asked him for permission to combine the two. I remember saying, “So I have permission to be both wonderful and evil? Is it ok for me to do both?” For some reason, his opinion mattered to me, simply because he, by definition, is a positive-energy filled person. And he said, “Yes, of course! You have permission, Isabella.” And over the course of the past couple days, I’ve been getting in touch with the part of me that can balance the two sides of me, which I hope will appeal to more customers. Less and less customers have been buying my positive, uplifting recordings… yet my evil ones are selling like hotcakes. My money situation is fine, however I’ve found it personally disappointing that all these new ones simply aren’t in demand. I know I’ll continue making positive ones, not necessarily for customers – but for me, because they’ve made enormous changes in my life that have improved my personal growth, love for others, and the need to spread knowledge to those who want to learn.
Those who have listened to recordings such as Escape, Intimate with Isabella, and Ascend into Goddesshood – have said those mp3s helped transform their lives. The compliments received from them far outweigh any other recording, yet they sell the least. It’s ironic, but I get it. It’s a different niche altogether. I’ll still continue to do it because money is irrelevant to me right now. I’m comfortable where I am in my life and the most important thing right now is self-enlightenment. If I can help people become self-enlightened with their negative fantasies, perhaps that can be a good thing, right? It’s food for thought.
I’m curious what other people think about Yin and Yang. Can there be a balance of evilness and goddessness, while still being true to form?
Love
Isabella
xoxooxox
About the Author: Isabella Valentine, certified clinical hypnotherapist and certified NLP practitioner specializing in erotic hypnosis, specifically feminization, sissification, pantyboys, mind control, and femdom brainwashing.
floralessence | Jan 23, 2008 | Reply
Goddess Isabella,
As a Goddess and domme You can take the balance to where You want to go with it. You can be as “evil” or as “good” as You want to be. You can definitely combine the Yin and Yang and be true to form.
If You do not want to go as far as ruin and bankruptcy then do not. You do not always have to cater to whatever idea we want, do the ideas that catch Your eye.
the niche of Your newer ones is new and it will probably take a little time for them to take off as well. floral wants quite a few of Your recordings, old and new.
floral agrees with the yin and yang concept. it even makes sense from a logical standpoint. darkness and light exist because of each other and you cannot recognize one without the other. if there was no darkness how could you tell what light was? also the concept of “good” only exists because someone had a concept of “evil”. completely opposite and yet intertwined, niether can exist without the other.
humbly,
floral
Lady Tree | Jan 23, 2008 | Reply
Hello Isabella,
I can so relate to the struggles you are having as you experience a spiritual awakening. When I was working professionally as a hypnodomme, I asked myself so many of the same questions, and suffered many issues of conscience. I truly wanted to have a positive effect on people’s lives, and I knew that, although I could play various roles to satisfy their fantasies, when I was ‘inside their heads’ with hypnosis, it could deeply affect the person and be experienced as so very real. I became more selective about my clients and focused my energies on those who I resonated with the most.
As far as the sales of your new spiritual recordings, I believe that perhaps they just have not yet found their audience. The hypnofetishists who are looking for humiliation and fantasy probably won’t be your market, but I think that they will touch people powerfully and you will find a whole new market of those hungering for the goddess energy that is unfolding within you.
I wish you all the best as you grow in this journey, and I send you much gratitude for your transparency and inspiration.
Blessings,
Tree
Gnauis | Jan 24, 2008 | Reply
Isabella:
It’s funny that you post this now. Less than a month ago, after coming back from vacation on the Big Island, I came across another hypnodomme’s site, and watched a sample Flash intro. I’ll spare you the details, but it hit me really hard, and I spent the next week living at an intensity that I had never experienced before. This was a completely new and life-changing event.
But it scared the hell out of me. The inability to control what was happening was, on a conscious level, extremely disturbing. On the one hand, every two hours or so I had intense proof of the power of hypnosis. But I wasn’t getting sleep, and it was a real problem. There were some other suggestions going on, I suspect to go back to the site and watch/buy more mp3s/videos, and I fought them off for the better part of a week. Finally I was back to normal.
I am an intelligent and intensely curious man, and I had to understand the amazing power of what had happened to me. I started scouring the internet for information about hypnosis in general and erotic hypnosis in particular. And I came across your site. I have read a great deal of what you’ve written about hypnosis and erotic hypnosis, and it was well-written, entertaining, and (most important) very helpful to me.
And because I felt you were more trustworthy than this other, randomly picked hypnodomme (and certainly more intelligent – her website misspells the word “origin” if you’re curious about who it is), I downloaded some videos and mp3s. I love your videos, the look and feel of them is marvelous. “Hypnofun” really affected me. I forget the title, but the video with the long induction where you discuss how Milton Erickson condensed hundreds of hypnosis scripts down to two words, and then told the subject (i.e., me) to kneel at the end also affected me deeply. I kneeled, and I liked it.
I would add that after the initial crisis had passed, I have generally felt quite good. I’m not entirely sure why, it seems that regardless of the subject matter being in trance has a positive effect on me. I’ve been getting more exercise, I’ve been eating less but enjoying what I do eat more.
The whole experience has awakened a long-slumbering masculine eroticism in me (long story, but like you I’m an extremely sexual person, but unlike you I have spent the most of my life controlling it, managing it, even suppressing it). In the end I think the other hypnodomme’s suggestions hit me deeply not because my deepest desire is to give up control, but because my libido latched onto it real hard as a means of escaping his cage. Upon reflection, my deepest desire and fantasy is to live every day with an intense, immediate eroticism. Dominance, submission, bisexuality, any and all of it are simply a means to that end.
I am, and have always been, a deep thinker. (My wife’s nickname for me is “Zenmaster”). After playing with this for awhile, and thinking about who I am and what I really want, I have come around to a similar place to your post-Hawaii thinking. The power of hypnosis amazes, and I want to use it to help myself and others. And specifically in the context of eroticism.
So I’ve made a decision to become a hypnotist, to help myself and others bring out the sexual intensity that lies within. I’ve bought some books and DVDs on hypnotism, and I’m going to devote myself to them over the next few months. NLP also fascinates me, and there’s a big NLP course and certification program coming to my city in September. I’ll sign up for that as well.
Which brings me to a few points:
(1) I am a willing and eager customer for the positive material you want to produce. In fact yesterday I bought a fair number of the ones you refer to in your post. Please keep working on this material, because it hits me right where I have discovered I want to be.
(2) It is a mistake to characterize your other work as “bad.” The reason is sells so well is because it fills a deep need which your customers have. Hypnosis can’t make anyone do anything they wouldn’t otherwise want to do, right? (Actually I think that’s a misleading statement, but that’s a longer topic than I want to discuss at the moment). You would not be so highly-rated, you would not be selling so much material, if it weren’t filling a deep-seated need for your clients.
(3) You mentioned somewhere in your blog about moving to Las Vegas and setting up a school or a teaching clinic. This is a incredible idea. Sign me up! Gnauis@gmail.com — send me whatever details you have about this. I could not be more eager to learn. (And also learn how you do your video and audio work, separate from the hypnosis elements – they are beautiful to watch and listen to).
(Oh, on the undivided nature of good and evil, yin-yang, etc., you should peruse some post-modern linguistic philosophy. It’s unbelievably dense and loaded with jargon, but the basic concept is that language controls our perceptions of reality (in fact, language *is* our reality), and that each idea embodies its opposite. They call it the “fundamental contradiction.” The whole question of the relationship between the mind, language and reality is a fascinating one, and I am shocked that hypnosis has played almost no role in the academic discussion of these topics.)
Greg
Cobra | Jan 27, 2008 | Reply
I love these sensual recordings! Thank you, Lady Isabella.
Seven years ago, I had a massive spiritual awakening and felt my alpha male shift to embrace the feminine. As a healing energy, the feminine energy is more powerful because it comes from the heart and the soul in the energy of nuturance, inspiration, and love.
Yin and yang is necessary. One without the other cannot exist (except love which has not opposite). Yet, it is not a duality but a cybernetic epistomology. See Gregory Bateson and Brad Keeney (Ascetics of Change).